Am I wrong to want you?
To go through the memories of us on repeat
my mind a broken record as I
pause | and play >
pause | and play >
your smile till it’s all I see
till the end of my days
Am I wrong to feel you?
In the emptiness of the sheets
in the cold of the night when I crave
your arms around my waist
and your breath near my ear
as you whisper lullabies like secrets
till we meet again in my dreams
Am I wrong to taste you?
When I take a bite out of an apple
or sink my teeth into the sweetness of chocolate
so close to the kisses you once gave me
in each one you etched on my lips
and into my memories
in the pouring rain
in between our secret getaways
in the endless hours we spent making love
till i felt nothing but you in my bones
in my soul
Am I wrong to believe in you?
To cling to the hope that one day you’ll see
there’s no greater love for you out there than than me
to the heart of mine you still carry in yours
broken, but still bound by the strings
of our Great Grand romance
Am I wrong to love you?
To keep loving you, knowing that
despite the hope; despite the memories
you will not return to me
or honor the promise you once made
to love me too till the end of time
Am I wrong
to keep drifting in and out of a world
where you are, immortalized in the past
while i continue to fade away
absent to an existence
in which i cannot live
When my friend casually asked me what plans I had for Valentine’s Day, I replied, “Netflix, minus the chill,” and we laughed. Hard. A majority of my friends are wonderfully single – reveling in the freedom that a lack of a relationship status gives us. I’m here to tell you that Valentine’s Day is just as much a celebration for us single peeps, as much as it is for the world’s abundance of couples.
In India, teenagers entering a relationship is done so with careful scrutiny and as a result, Valentine’s Day isn’t as celebrated as I had expected it to be. My committed friends fear arousing the suspicions of their parents by going out on V-Day which is a normal precaution in an Indian context. It’s a striking contrast to what I experienced in England – where I’ve seen parents encourage their teenage kids to go out with their respective partners. But I’m not here to discuss cultural differences. At least, not today.
For starters, I personally believe that in the old days, Valentine’s Day stood for something. Now, it’s merely an opportunity for the exploitation of mass consumers by profit-thirsty businesses that are just waiting to pounce. That could be the influence of my business degree acting up but, think about how commercial it’s become. Even if I were in a relationship, I wouldn’t want my boyfriend to feel obligated to buy me anything or do anything on Valentine’s Day. Even then, it’s just like any other day because if I were truly in love, every day would be Valentine’s Day.
Best Valentine’s Day card ever.
But considering the fact that I’m happily single (it’s not a myth), I’m here to tell you that it’s absolutely okay to not be all about the romance today, or any other day for the matter. Here’s why:
- You’re single and you’re awesome. Cheesy as hell, I know, but true. You don’t need a relationship to validate your self-worth. You don’t need a date on the supposedly most romantic day of the year to feel special. Learn to love yourself – take that figuratively or literally, whichever is fine as long as you’re happy.
- V-Day Savings – Keeping the big-bad-businesses and corporate culture I mentioned before in mind, if you’re single and on a budget, you would end up saving a huge chunk of your pocket money. You can spend it on food instead. Need I say more?
- Flirting galore – not that I’m an expert on this topic but remember, you’re not the only single one on the planet today. All of us are looking to have a little flirty-fun, even more so on the 14th of February. Whether it’s casual or all about the play, enjoy your singlehood!
- ‘Gal’entine’s Day – All the single ladies, put your hands up cause this one’s for you. My girlfriends coined this term today as we finished college and strode out like the total single bosses we are. Why focus on your partners today when you can share the love with your girlfriends? After all, they’ve been there for you through thick and thin, through your singlehood and relationships too. Make it all about the squad.
- Candy Hog – No bae, means no sharing. Which fortunately for you means you can hog the Valentine’s Day candies on sale all for yourself.
- You’re your own BOSS – There’s no stress to buy presents and make today perfect for your significant other. You can do whatever the hell you want because you are the ruler of your universe. Sleep, game, binge-watch F.R.I.E.N.D.S or do literally anything else you want. It’s up to you.
That, my fellow single-buds, is why today rocks.
Embrace the solitude. Feel the freedom. Dance naked around a tree. Empower yourselves. (Something’s out of sorts here).
Just…be your own Valentine and everything else about today will come secondary to how amazing you really are.